why we need stories

            Everyone likes a good story.  We like to be transported away, we like to be entertained.  Time stands still when I get lost in a great novel with a cup of tea by my side.

            But stories can do so much more than entertain us.  They can provide a mirror for something we go through or need, like when we commiserate with the heroine or long to experience what she goes through.  Then the story provides emotional support.  Stories inspire us to muse and ponder and philosophize, perhaps to see things differently, perhaps to stretch our imagination and mind. 

            Another very important aspect of story telling, of creating a narrative, is to knit a culture or events together, creating meaning, making sense.  Not all of us can see a pattern when we are walking through the woods and seeing all those individual trees.  But once someone flies a drone above the trees, or climbs on a tower, so to speak, and sees the whole of it as a forest, sharing that narrative helps all of us to see the bigger picture. 

            Creation stories ground a culture in a narrative base.  Cultural beliefs are a story that informs how people think about something (that mainstream medicine thinks of the body in a mechanical way is a narrative that informs our healing methods; when we change the narrative the healing methods will change, too).  Traditional fairytales teach us about good and bad, and that light always triumphs over darkness.  Without stories things seem random and our human mind needs patterns.  Nature changes all the time and doesn't need patterns, at least not human patters of orderliness.  We do.  We create meaning and context through stories and narrative.

heavenly crunch

           What is it about crunchiness of all food textures that makes it so satisfying?  It's easy to eat a whole bag of potato chips (and then wonder how you did it).  Crunch is so satisfying under my teeth and hearing the crunch in my ears while I eat is addictive.  I want to feel and hear and experience it over and over and over.  I don't seem to get tired of the experience.

            Food texture and sensation is important, eating all mush is just not interesting.  There is chunky (as in roasted root vegetables or stew), there is chewy (as in meat or seitan), there is shredded (as in a raw carrot salad), there is dense (as in cooked eggs or fish or cheese), there is fluffy (as in sponge cake or some breads), there is granular (as in quinoa or rice), there is silky and smooth (as in pudding or silken tofu), there is powdery (as in different kinds of flour or powdered sugar), there is leafy (as in green vegetables), there is crispy (as in a cold fresh apple).  But crunchy is best I find. 

           Crunchy foods involve our sense of hearing in addition to our senses of taste and feeling.  Maybe that is the difference - heightened sensation.   We live for experiences.  Other than perhaps crispiness none of the other textures produce a sound.  As a kid I used to love KitKat and Crunch bars and brittle, all because of the crunch factor - now I find them too sweet.  I have been tempted to buy a food dehydrator just to make crunchy vegetable chips.  Then I can crunch away in a healthy way. 

conquering negative thinking

             Are your thoughts helping to build you up, or tear you down?  That's the question Lesley Alderman poses in his recent NY Times article on conquering negative thinking.  You can think yourself into a spiral of negativity and only see gloom and doom.  You can keep moping.  You can believe that everyone is out to get you. But at one point or another it's neither fun for yourself nor the people around you.  Then it's time to pull yourself up by the bootstraps and do something about it.

            When you figure out and formulate what you want, and work towards it, instead of criticizing the present situation or what you currently don't have, you feel more energetic, more invigorated, more satisfied, and more inspired.   That's the beginning of hope.  Fear and anger can also spur an amazing amount of creative energy if put to good use.

            Complacency on the other hand, sitting back and hoping that others will do the work for you, waiting to see what happens, isn't going to get you anywhere. So put out there what you want, imagine it, "be the change you wish to see in the world," and make one small move in that direction today; and another one tomorrow; and the following day.  That is intent.  That is the only way to initiate change.  And it feels good because you make it happen.  You are in charge.

 

let's dream

           A day late, but never too late for this message.  While Martin Luther King, Jr. was a person of color, his message of love and peace and respect is of course universal and has nothing to do with skin color.  On MLK day we celebrate his courage in the face of adversity, his vision to communicate peacefully in a world fraught with adversity and strife, his vision for harmony and kindness on Earth, and for showing us a better way,  - a dream still, but let's keep dreaming.   

            Let's embrace his message in our own backyard - in our families, among our friends, at work, at school.  When I can see myself in all other fellow men, in any fellow man or woman, when I can see that they all have the same needs for safety, a roof over their head, a good job, healthful food, dignity and respect, as I do, that they all have the same fears I do, and the same need for love and acceptance, skin color is no longer the issue.  When we become peaceful internally we will become peaceful externally.  Let's all remember his dream and make it our's - it's a universal dream.

tangoing from the heart

             A few weeks ago my husband and I started taking beginner lessons in Argentine tango - the place is only ten minutes from our house and the lessons happen to be free - major incentives - although we have dabbled in ballroom dancing since before we had kids (always on and off, always at the glorified beginner level).

            But tango seems different, less mechanical and structured than conventional ballroom dancing, and more intuitive and sensual.  For one there is that sliding, slithering tango walk - the most basic tangoing might actually simply entail slide-walking to tango music.  Tango requires dropping from the head into the heart, and isn't that the topic of our times?  Tango teaches trust because the follower always moves backwards.  As a matter of fact some of the practice exercises were done with closed eyes.   More so than conventional ballroom dancing (at least it seems so from my beginner perspective), tango becomes a complete merging of self, music, and partner, an in-the-moment moving, feeling, trusting, responding to your partner - no anticipation, just being in the now.

            Tango, and ballroom dancing in general, is good for your health.  It helps your balance and coordination, moving to music is joyful, tango, in particular, is also very sensual, it requires and trains trust, it's great exercise that's a lot more fun than running on a treadmill, you can do it 'til the day you die, and as a social activity connects you with people.  As an exercise in togetherness, partnership, and trusting it's a perfect hobby for our times. 

            We need to play more, we need to dance more, we need to enjoy life more.

first coffee, first walk

           On Sunday, first day of the new year, we had fun marveling at all the firsts we experienced - first cup of tea of the new year, first breakfast of the new year, first walk of the new year, and on and on.  It was fun and uplifting.  My husband mused about how exciting life would be if we looked at everything we do as a "first," with the sense of wonderment and freshness the new year brings. 

            That's the secret of living in the moment!  There is always a new day, a new month, a new afternoon, to keep playing this game endlessly. Try it.

 

Happy ChristmaHanukkah

            Finding canny significances in events and things - some call it synchronicity - makes life more meaningful, and can send a strong message. 

            This year Christmas Eve and the first day of Hanukkah fall on the same day.  Why not take this convergence as an opportunity to celebrate inclusiveness and togetherness?  We are stronger together than fragmented into splinter groups. Instead of lighting candles for Christmas, or lighting candles for Hanukkah, why not light candles for peace, for happiness, for compassion, for inclusiveness, for understanding, for awareness, for human rights this year?  May light prevail over darkness, and may love prevail over anger and hatred.  Wishing all a happy ChristmaHanukkah.