a kick in the butt

             Sometimes I need a kick in the butt.  I don't need to be hit over the head.  But some recent work shenanigans rattled me profoundly out of my self-induced writing slumber and inspired me to get my book edits finally to the finish line, pretty fast, just like that.  That was easy!  Book done, off to test readers.  After final suggestions and edits I'll figure out the publishing part.

            It's easy to fall into complacency.  When things are just too comfortable, too easy, then we stop learning, stop creating, stop being truly enthusiastic and excited about new horizons, new prospects, new possibilities. 

            Of course you can get off your butt before then. It's less painful for sure.  Be proactive and on your toes, anticipate the need for change before the universe helps you along, gently or not so gently.

going deep

      The message about my blog and upcoming book is to live deeply, slowly, with awareness and thoughtfulness, instead of skipping the surface.  By going fast we tend to miss understanding the significance of things, or make mistakes, or simply overlook the beauty of things.

            It seems to have taken some Brits by surprise that the Brexit vote actually went through.  It seems that many Brits only wondered about the consequences of the vote after the fact.  It seems that many Brits would opt for a do-over if they could. 

            Slowing down allows us to think a bit more, a bit deeper, weighing and anticipating the consequences ahead of time.  Spontaneousness has its charm in certain instances - when there are no major consequences either way.  "The weather is beautiful, I was going to do the laundry, but let's go for a walk instead."  But decisions with big consequences require several deep breaths, a looooong pause, a bit of research, taking a look from all sides, maybe sleeping over the quandary, then considering things with fresh eyes the next morning - before deciding.  Things with big consequences can't always be undone.  Take a look at an earlier post on slowing down. And another one.  

where do you draw the line?

           A few years ago I bought a lovely linen summer dress at a second hand store for about $20.  I still like the dress but noticed that two seams were coming apart, which made it look a bit shabby.  I brought it to the local alterations seamstress, a lady from Europe who does superb work, because fixing it entailed a bit more than simply going down the seam with the machine.  She looked at it and said "Well, I don't want you to be surprised when you pick the dress up, but I have to undo both seems almost to the top, take the material in and then resew the seams, and it'll cost $60."  I thought that was a lot.

            Where do you draw the line?  Some things do, unfortunately, boil down to money.  I decided not to spend $60 to fix an old dress I bought for $20.  But it's a shame that fixing something should cost so much more than buying something new (since I buy a lot of my clothes at thrift stores I'm not used to $200 dresses).  When do you stop supporting your local business and watch out for your wallet?  I have the same issue with our local independent bookstore.  I support them however I can, but sometimes I just can't.  When a book costs just a few dollars more I'll buy it there, even if they don't have it and need to order it.  But what if I need to buy a bunch of books they don't have and would need to order, which would take at least a week, and their cost would be at least $30 more than if I ordered the books through a huge famous online store? 

            Where and how do you draw the line? It's a quandary.

we teach best what we most need to learn

            Author Mike Dooley wrote that.  Mmh, an interesting thought to explore. I am thinking that we learn best what we most need to learn.  But then it's is only a small step from learning something to teaching something. 

            In fact, I have always believed that people who study psychology or related fields actually want to find out more about themselves.   I was always interested in the big spiritual questions and in healing.  Turns out, after studying and pondering both subjects for many years, that the answers to both are closely related, and I'm addressing them in my upcoming book.  So there....  What are your thoughts?

why we need elders

            Children and grandchildren often lived either with or in proximity of their parents and grandparents, and in traditional societies still do, giving the younger generations access to older people they can trust, and who can guide them because they've been there done that.  Nowadays we don't always have access to that elder wisdom because parents and grandparents often live far away or perhaps we have excluded them from our lives because we were so busy. 

            But we all need mentors, guides, counselors, people who help us navigate our complex world that is going through huge changes.  The world is changing faster than ever.  Often the grandparent generation, even if around, is not keeping up with technology and social changes and is thus unable to help because they may feel lost themselves.  Heck, parents are often lost and their teens flounder and resort to drugs, alcohol, and the virtual screen world because they lack emotional support and wise guidance.  Between climate change, environmental calamities, changing economic paradigms and social structures, the refugee crisis from the Middle East and Africa, and violence and terrorism seemingly popping up anywhere and everywhere we have a lot to chew on.

            We need very special elders to guide us through these intense times so we don't get lost in despair, anguish, or aloofness.   They are around, I know some of them.  Intergenerational communication is more important than ever.

 

foraging 101

dandelions

dandelions

lambs quarters

lambs quarters

         For the past few weeks I have had an abundant supply of wild greens in my backyard.  Lambs quarters and dandelions are growing with abandon. Both can be eaten raw as salad greens, used in a smoothie, or quickly sautéed or steamed with some garlic and a squeeze of lemon juice.  Dandelion leaves become bitter as the leaves grow bigger and older, so harvest the smaller ones if you don't like bitter greens.  The yellow flowers are edible and look very pretty in a salad, or you can put them in your smoothie.  Lambs quarters is a mild tasting green and can be substituted in any recipe that calls for spinach or chard. 

            In a few weeks we are looking forward to a bumper crop of blackcaps.  What's growing in your backyard?

budding blackcaps

budding blackcaps